Romance Scam

What is Romance scam?

  • Romance scam is a confidence trick involving feigned romantic intentions towards victims, gaining their affection, and then using that goodwill to commit fraud.
  • If you have chatting, online friend or a stranger with you, befriended on any matrimonial website or on any social networking website and such a stranger is trying to gain your sympathy by mentioning his health or financial reasons.
  • Such pretentions are not be believed because they could be fraud and victims will be made to suffer financially or physically. Please do not pay amounts to such strangers.

Can some one use matrimonial sites for financial gain?

Don’t be in a hurry to get married to the subject person you meet on-line. It is important to wait because time will tell the truth for choosing partner from the matrimonial website

It is important to find out that whether that site is registered or not. How many people are aware of that site? That can be done by asking people or friends. If there is any perfect match, then find out that whether the registration is done by right person or not. If it is not fraud, then look for the place of living, religion and education qualification.

To find out the qualification, it is important to check the certificates. Sometimes wrong qualification or job description is given. It is done to attract the looker.

For job description, find out the place and period of working. It can be done by giving call or visiting the office by surprise. If it is nearby, then spend some time to find out that whether that person is working or not. If all the things match then call the person over phone. Talking to the person also gives the idea.

Can we use the detective agencies to avert these frauds?

Yes. There are a few reputed Detective Agencies that offer pre-marital check for a small fee. This will help to prove the authenticity of the subject person to some extent. It is important to specifically instruct the agent to collect information about the subject person’s Family history (family tree). It’s important to hire a reputed, police approved private detective.

It is a must to visit the subject person at his/her home in the company of his/her parents/ relatives not once but at least several times. Invite the subject person over to your family home as well.

Tips to be followed, if the person is NRI?

In such cases it is really difficult to find out the real person. For that proper research should be done. If it is inter religion, find out the type of culture and living standard.

Friends and relatives can be good option for enquiring. It is also important to check the criminal records and health condition. Otherwise later it can affect adversely. Number of family members and whether the person is staying at own house or rented Locality where they are living is good or not

What are the experiences of ill-fated victims with these matrimonial sites?

A matrimonial introduction site authenticating the claims of its members does not exist, irrespective of its repute, huge membership or international status.

Beware of some members lying about their past life, marital status, age, height, personality, health, social and economic status. Members could be criminals, HIV infected, bankrupt etc.

A very large number of well-educated 40 + women, from good family background, who have been mercilessly dumped by their former spouses with young kids are in dire and desperate need of economical and emotional support are in internet matrimonial introduction sites.

Unfortunately, most of these women fall victim to a very high percentage of male members lurking in these matrimonial sites merely for sexual gratification, sexual affair or a one night stand. This is because a person over 40, envisaging a SECOND MARRIAGE, makes all moves and takes decision in privacy without any council of elders. It is therefore imperative to follow the same rules and every advice given for first marriages. Even so, more caution is required for older people entering into second marriages.

Is the information available in Cyber World credible?

No one can say with confidence that the information available is correct. It is not easy for anyone to know what is going on in the dark portals of the cyber world.

What is Court ship?

Dating several prospective matches at any given point is Court Ship. In the cyber world, the subject person will always be dating several prospective matches at any given point. This is not only in India but with members overseas as well.

Courtship may even involve sexual communication by typing on-line, web cam and telephone.

What are the ill effects of Court Ship?

There is a real danger for these secret courtships to continue and develop even after the subject makes a commitment to marry you and such courtship can continue well after your marriage.

There are gangs operating by putting up the profile of a woman gang member to lure a well to do man into marriage merely to gain the legal status of ‘wife’ then use the legal status as modus operandi to gain criminal access to property and wealth. Alternatively file false case to extort a huge out of court settlement.

Lastly, what counts the most in any marriage is the understanding and respect between the two. If this is good and honest then it can make a marriage bliss.